Since this Sunday is our last childless Valentine’s Day, Tim and I actually plan to celebrate it this year. I’ve never made a huge deal out of February 14th. It makes me feel awkward, and I don’t like fancy dinners (please don’t make me wear a dress), candlelight, or high expectations. I do, however, like chocolate.
I feel like it’s really easy to be disappointed by Valentine’s Day, especially with all the hype and marketing surrounding us. There are a few precautions I take in order to best enjoy my Valentine’s Day, along with any other date night. Want to hear them? Good. Keep reading.
Make plans. No, seriously. Don’t expect your date to make plans for you. Make it clear that you want to do something, what you want to do, and how long you want to do it for. Your date is not a mind-reader.
Communicate. What do you want out of this day? Do you want to exchange gifts? Do you want to keep things low-key? Again, no one’s a mind reader, and letting your date know what you expect, and knowing what they expect, will help you avoid confusion and disappointment later.
Don’t have ridiculously high expectations. This is not some romance novel, and most people don’t like planning surprises. Be realistic. Also, if your date hasn’t sent flowers to your work the last 3 years, they probably won’t this year, either.
Focus on positives. Don’t think about what your date isn’t doing right — what ARE they doing right? What’s awesome about them? Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to shower your love with compliments, especially if they’re nervous about meeting expectations.
Clear your day. This isn’t possible for everyone, but if you can, avoid working on Valentine’s Day. If you’re a workaholic, it will mean a lot to your partner when you don’t check your work emails and instead, spend your time fully present with them. Speaking of which…
Turn off your notifications. I’m a big fan of turning off most of my notifications anyway (and often leaving my phone on silent), but when you’re on a date, or even just out to dinner with someone, it’s not polite to be on your phone the whole time. Get rid of the temptation and potential distraction by turning off the notifications, and leaving your phone in your purse or pocket.
How do you make the most of your Valentine’s Day?