With Facebook’s recent addition of “Nearby Friends” to its mobile app, keeping up with where your friends are is easier than ever. Facebook even lets you choose who you want to see your exact location, and for how long. This is what I like to call “husband tracking”.
This could be interesting, right? After all, if my husband never bothers looking at Nearby Friends, it would take all of 5 seconds for me to open up the app on his phone and allow myself to always see where he is, and he would never know any differently until he took a look at it himself.
This isn’t the case with Tim, though. Tim is all for husband/wife tracking.
A few months into our relationship, Tim sent me a request on Google Latitude (which is now the Location tab in the Google + app) to share locations. I was very surprised, and took a moment to consider what this meant. Was he trying to stalk me? Did he not trust me to be where I said I’d be? Did I care if he could pinpoint my exact location at any given time?
I didn’t. So I accepted. After all, if he suddenly gave me the creeps (I knew he wouldn’t) it could be easily switched off. I had full control over it.
And what happened was something that probably helped us immensely: in my crazy, paranoid, previously-burned girlfriend stage, I checked Google Latitude when Tim was “out with friends” or didn’t answer a text for awhile. He was always where he said he’d be. Always.
Now, this may seem like a no-brainer to some of you, but if you’re currently in the dating world, you might know that there are plenty of people who will lie to their significant others about their current location and activities, whether it’s because they know what they’re doing is wrong, they’re embarrassed, or they just don’t want to start a fight over the fact that yes, they did go to a strip club with the guys Saturday night.
Eventually, I stopped checking Latitude. I knew where Tim was going to be, because he told me.
We still do track each other’s phones, for various reasons, including the fact that it’s probably good to know where your spouse is, or was the last time their phone was on, in case of an emergency. And if I really want to, sometimes I check to see if Tim has left work yet so I know when to start dinner.
Some might find this to be a little much, or an indicator that we don’t trust each other, but I think otherwise. I think that we trust each other enough to be completely honest about where we are, and I trust that Tim isn’t going to track my every move. Otherwise I might get a text saying “OMG YOU’RE SHOPPING AT SEPHORA AGAIN?!”
How do you feel about husband tracking?
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